People often wonder what is it about tantric massage and tantric sex that makes them tantric as opposed to other forms of senusal or erotic activity. The difference has to do with focus and intention.

Tantric Sex

Tantric sex regarded by tantrikas as a way to celebrate one's divine aspect, so in many respects it is a form of meditation, albeit pleasureable. For this reason, the serious practitioner needs to give up "doing what comes naturally" in favor of a deeper, more lasting experience opens a path for an experience of the divine.

Tantric Sex For Men

To engage in tantric sex, men must master their tendency towards goal-oriented sex. "Get it up, get it in, get it on, get it off" may work for some men, but definitely not tantric men. Instead a tantric man must learn to delay the onset of ejaculation using a combination of timing, breathing techniques and undulation. Rather than relying strictly on intercourse, often this can be learned during tantric massage.

Tantric Massage For Men

Tantric massage for men differs from so-called "therapuetic massage" in that the genitals are included, but is distinct from other forms of sensual or erotic massage in two ways:

• The session may include internal "sacred spot" work massaging the prostate through the anus
• The session is quite often a way to practice ejaculatory mastery through breathing and undulation

It is sometimes possible for men to experience a full-bodied non-ejaculatory spinal orgasm this way.

Tantric Sex For Women

A woman's natural sexuality is well-suited for tantric sex, but there are still areas that may require work. A tantric woman would do well to become "self-ignited" so that she does not depend on a man for either arousal or satisfaction. In this way she comes to an encounter prepared and seldom leaves disappointed. In addition, women often have areas where they have become numb or shut down as a consequence of unpleasant sexual experiences in the past. A woman can heal this through tantric massage.

Tantric Massage For Women

Tantric massage for women is both pleasureable and healing. A woman can often experience a variety of different orgasms through tantric massage. In addition to the clitoral and vaginal orgasms, a woman may experience uterine or even whole body spiral orgasms. Aside from the orgasmic qualities, tantric massage can allow a woman to go into an erotic trance state which may last a very long time. This state is not possible to achieve if partners are engaged in the rush towards orgasm of "normal" sex.

It is sometimes possible for women to have their first experience of female ejaculation or "amrita flow" this way.

Carolena and Mead teach specific techniques of tantric massage as a training method for the bliss of tantric sex.